Through the course of my adventures, I've been fortunate enough to meet a number of exceptional human beings. World class, even. From work colleagues, to travel companions, to fellow passengers on the bus during my time at university, I've managed to befriend people in all sorts of places. Some of these meetings have been more unlikely than others, while some have been perfectly ordinary. Either way, we've all got stories about how the people who were once strangers became our dearest friends.
On the other hand, we've also all met individuals who, for whatever reason, don't become a permanent part of our lives. They might be around for some years or perhaps just a fleeting moment. Regardless of the amount of time that they are present, our interactions with them are all but forgettable. I have memorable moments about a lot of these people, but there is one story in particular that comes to mind more often than most. Ron was an 80-year-old Wellingtonian I met at LAX on my way home from Central America. He was behind me in the queue at customs wearing a well-worn, patch-covered leather jacket, with a khaki-coloured rucksack slung over his shoulder. I had recognised him from earlier in the day as I had also seen him wandering around Mexico City airport. My friend Tom who was with me at the time had spotted him initially, saying something along the lines of "check out this guy." He had a point; it's not everyday you see some leather-clad old-timer strutting around an airport on his own. The elderly man was carrying a New Zealand passport in his hands: another kiwi amongst this sea of people. In some respects, his presence made me feel a little closer to home, which was especially comforting for a weary traveller who just wanted a hot shower and to be tucked up in her own bed. As the line shuffled forward, a faint voice spoke up: "So, you're from New Zealand as well, are you?" He must've noticed my passport too. "Yes, I'm from Auckland" I said, with a half-smile, wondering whether or not revealing my identity as a JAFA would cost me an airport companion. He acknowledged my response with a single word that also answered my yet unasked question: "Wellington." As we passed through customs, I asked Ron where he was returning from. He told me that he had just spent the last six weeks travelling around Mexico, Guatemala and Belize by himself. My eyes widened in both surprise and awe; it seemed like a rather impressive feat for someone his age. I told him that I had just been there myself and we began swapping stories about our experiences. He explained that his holiday had been cut short due to an injury he had sustained falling down some stairs in Guatemala. The poor bloke ended up in hospital for a week without any of his travel documentation on him. "The whole thing was a circus," he chuckled, "the doctors and nurses couldn't comprehend a bloody word I was saying!" Fortunately, Ron managed to navigate the language-barrier by communicating through the use of hand gestures and facial expressions until he was discharged. It's remarkable how you can reach a mutual understanding with someone through something as simple as eye contact, isn't it? "So, what's your story, Ron?" I asked as we sat down for a pre-flight snack. He had bought himself a banana and a chicken sandwich, which he carefully unravelled from the cling film that it was wrapped in. Ron began by telling me that he had worked as a carpenter since he was a teenager and that he eventually opened and ran his own business. It was successful enough that he was able to retire at fifty, and that every year since, he had managed to travel away somewhere. Unfortunately, Ron's life wasn't quite the fairytale that I had imagined, despite his extensive travels. His wife passed away when she was forty, leaving him to raise their two children single-handedly. He had become estranged from his son over the years, but was close to his daughter, grandchildren and great-grandchildren. His face lit up when he spoke about them and he said he was looking forward to catching up with them when he returned to home. Ron coolly mentioned that he had a lady-friend (sly dog) who no doubt was anxious to see him. He hadn't managed to figure out how to get his Nokia flip-phone to work, and so, he hadn't been able to contact her once during his travels. I took one look at the ancient relic he presented to me and assumed that either the battery was buggered or that the cellphone was simply too outdated to function successfully in this decade. Despite this, Ron had done extremely well without any communication to or from home. To be quite honest, he probably got a lot more out his experience than someone who would've been glued to their iPhone, discovering their newfound world through a tiny screen, rather than with their own eyes. Soon enough, it was time for Ron and I to go our separate ways. I was bound for Brisbane while his stopover was in Sydney. As we reached my gate, he offered a firm handshake, thanked me for my company and wished me all the best. "You've got your lid screwed on straight, you'll be all right" he chimed. In an instant, he eradicated any self-conscious thoughts I may have had about my head being lopsided. But in all seriousness, it was somewhat reassuring for a 22-year-old (who despite trying to "find herself" in Mexico was still unsure what life would bring) to hear those words from a stranger who had experienced it all before her. Although our meeting was brief, I still took something valuable away from my conversations with Ron. In spite of all the curveballs that had been thrown his way, his outlook of life was impeccably bright. If I am lucky enough to live a life as long and fulfilling as his has so far been, I hope that I too will be able look back on all my past experiences and appreciate them for what they're worth. No matter what bullshit you have to endure, it is essential to find that silver-lining, and try (however difficult it may be) to look at the bigger picture that is being painted before you. I don't know if I believe in fate, but I like to think that people come in and out of our lives for a reason. The scale and impact of their influence on us may vary, but no doubt, these interactions, however minor they might be, seem to count for something. The importance of these encounters may be realised in an instant or perhaps days, months, even years later, when we find ourselves reflecting on them. Sometimes they reveal general truths about life, while other times, they allow us to learn something new about ourselves, alter our perspectives, and ultimately, play their part in shaping the people who we become. As for Ron himself? Well, I need only two words to sum him up: bloody legend.
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I know it's a saying that has been absolutely thrashed to death, but man, time sure does fly. This time last year, I was preparing myself to embark on a journey halfway across the world to explore the sights and experience the culture of Central America. Little did I know that this adventure would change my life and be the catalyst for some serious self-learning.
Leaving Auckland airport for this trip was a debacle in itself with changes to flights needing to be made within hours prior to my departure. Still, I managed to keep my cool as I boarded the plane, thinking that I certainly wouldn't have been the only traveller in history to have experienced a minor hiccup. Arriving in Mexico City some twenty-four plus hours later, however, to discover that my luggage hadn't even left my home country was a little disheartening to say the least. One harrowing courtesy-car ride to my accommodation and a few frustrated tears shed later, I picked up my socks and decided that all I could do was accept that this was a less than ideal situation and make the best of it. Three weeks later, I was reunited with my luggage and homeward bound. As previous posts would indicate, I did things in Central America that I never would have dreamed of. I met some of the most wonderful people, created lasting memories and learnt lessons that I will carry for a lifetime. Surprisingly, or perhaps not-so-surprisingly, I managed to get on relatively well without most of my belongings. It's amazing how much shit (for lack of a better word) we think we need while travelling. While I may have missed dolling myself up for a night on the town, or having a wider selection of clothes to choose from, at the end of the day, I was just stoked to be doing what I was doing and embracing all that Central America had to offer. Sometimes I feel like I have to pinch myself to remind myself that it wasn't all a dream. Fortunately I can avoid inflicting self-trauma thanks to the filing cabinet full of memories I have in my mind. Even for those that are becoming a little fuzzy as time passes, the photographs on my phone transport me right back to those moments and they become as clear as the day they were experienced. If anything, I wish I had written more about this trip while the momentum to do so was still there. As I settled back into my day-to-day life, it felt as though I had less time to daydream about my travels and mentally reimagine myself in a place I once was. Travelling alone was as nerve-wracking as it was exhilarating. The challenges I dealt with taught me so much about what I am capable of in the face of adversity. Let me tell you, globe-trotting isn't all the glamorous, especially when you are forced to scrub your underwear with a cheap bar of soap and blast them with a hairdryer just so you have a clean pair to wear the next day. Even when it seems like you've hit rock bottom, you find a way to survive. Not all my problems were magically solved through travelling as I hoped they would be. I didn't come back home and have some epiphany of what life had in store for me. Like most of us, I'm still figuring it out. In the last year, I've changed my idea about what career path I want to pursue approximately 87 times, moved out of home (and moved back in), jumped back into the dating scene and tried the whole "falling in love" deal, and spent a significant amount of time getting to know myself better. There are a lot of things I'm still not sure of. Before I went travelling, this terrified me. Now, I'm learning to be okay with that. I can't be in control of what I don't know, but I can be in control of what I do know. I may not know exactly what I want to do, or where I want to be, but I do know that I am edging closer to figuring out who I am, and no doubt this will put me in good stead for any future decisions I make in my life. So, who is B? B has an incredibly dry sense of humour and is about as sarcastic as they come (truth be told, she also uses this strategically as a defense mechanism in times of vulnerability). Bad memories about red wine no longer make her want to vomit, and in fact, it has become her drink of choice in recent times (a reflection of her incredibly classy nature). B is still pretty reluctant to step foot in a gym, but she'll be in her element outdoors, so long as the sun is shining. Alternatively, you'll find her curled up reading some crime-thriller, writing her thoughts in a journal, or watching some soppy film and pretending she's not a romantic (she might be, ever so slightly, and the thought makes her cringe). She enjoys being around people, listening to them, and helping where possible. Perhaps most importantly, B is resilient, fiercely loyal, and values everyone in her life. All in all, I feel like I'm closer to knowing who I am than ever before. As it turns out, a lot can happen in a year. I'm currently in the process of planning a trip to Europe and considering returning to university to pursue further studies. Although I can't say for certain what the next twelve months will bring, if 2017 is anything like the last year I've had, then I can't wait to see what unfolds. |
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